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Life Coach: Dream A Little

"When I was a young boy, I was often chastised for daydreaming," says Carers NZ life coach Richard Blakeborough.

"Get your head out of cloud cuckoo land. Stop daydreaming. Grow up." 

The thing was, I enjoyed daydreaming. 

It was fun to imagine how things could be, who I could become, what I could do. 

It was interesting to see where these daydreams would ‘take me’.

I was still daydreaming when I went to university. 

One day, at a psychology lecture, I was staring out of the window. 

“What on earth are you doing?” asked the lecturer. 

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Life Coach: Good Vibrations!

PinkButterflyWhat comments, issues, or people 'press your buttons'?

Richard Blakeborough suggests you identify your Anti Calm triggers to deal with stress peacefully. 

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Life Coach: Let Go!

Lighten you life ( and your mind) by releasing old habits, possessions and attitudes, says coach Richard Blakeborough

As a young man I attended boarding school on the North Yorkshire Moors.

The school terms were neatly sectioned to semi-mirror the seasons: a short and exciting summer term, full of the promise of a long school break; a long autumn term, spiced with the gift of Christmas; and then the feared cold and dreary winter term between Christmas and Easter. January through March were hard yards on the moors: bitterly cold, with little to look forward to at the end.

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Life Coach: In The Now!

Feel like you always have seven things on your mind? Life coach Richard Blakeborough says a few minutes is all you need to take the pressure down.

Stop the world, I want to get off! Have you ever had the feeling that everything is too fast, too aggressive, too loud ... that you would just like things to calm down, maybe even take a mini holiday from the hullaballoo? 

Sometimes, when I watch images of life in China or India or even the USA, the pace of their lives frightens me. Surely all that stress and anxiety and activity must be bad for people? It can be!

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Life Coach: Fresh Start!

After months of depression and doubt following his heart bypass surgery, Richard Blakeborough had no illusions: things had to change!

Getting the feeling again

Barry Manilow may have been onto something with that song title. The feeling for me was motivation. I had always thought I was reasonably driven, ambitious, and motivated. As a young man, I used my motivation to earn my degree, play rugby, and leave my home country to create a new life in New Zealand.

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Life Coach: Mind Games

Getting your head around a challenging diagnosis, serious injury, long-term disabilities, or a major health trauma can be scary, as life coach Richard Blakeborough knows only too well.

I know that many Family Care readers live with the effects of disabilities, chronic conditions, and life-threatening illnesses, so thought I might explore some of the issues this raises for anyone in this situation and their families.

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Life Coach: Self Belief

How we think and feel about ourselves is reflected in what happens in our lives. If your thoughts are negative, then turn them around so they are positive. By Richard Blakeborough

If you think you aren’t attractive, or that you are not coping well, then you will believe this to be true. Your behaviour will reflect your thinking. The truth is it’s all about how we think we look or feel!

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Life Coach: Break Bad Habits!


Life coach Richard Blakeborough loves a nice glass of wine, but he doesn’t want to have one ... well, only occasionally.

I was excited when I saw my first column in Family Care, and even though I wrote it, I found myself re-reading it. I was conscious of my comments about alcohol and reflected on that behaviour, because I’m a coach: I need to model the behaviours my clients may want to change in their own lives.

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Life Coach: Plant, Weed, Nourish!

Keeping the garden tidy and enjoying its gifts has many parallels with how we approach life. By Family Care columnist and life coach Richard Blakeborough.

Last Sunday I had a day in the garden. I have a very large garden, and sometimes the thought of getting out and weeding frightens me, because there is so much to do!

A benefit of spending long hours in the garden is that I have time to think. And last Sunday I needed to think.

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Life Coach: Kiwi Heroines!

When Family Care and Carers NZ offered a free hour of life coaching with Richard Blakeborough, he was swamped with requests, mainly from women providing care and support for others. What did he discover in hours of conversations via telephone, email, and Skype?

This is a story about heroes or, to be exact, heroines: everyday New Zealand women who support some of our country’s most vulnerable citizens. Our story begins when Carers NZ and Family Care magazine asked me to coach 50 readers.

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Caring Family Relationships

How can we best nurture family relationships while caring for a family member? Read and listen to these stories about carers who do exactly that. 

Carolyn Jury and her husband WayneMitchell and Braedon Jury and their Grandpa

Carolyn Jury 

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